UNDERSTANDING

Dilon Ki Kahaani Labzon Ki Zubaani 

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Kya main joh kehna chahta tha voh samjh paayi? Usne meri baat toh sun li par voh mujhe smjh ni paaya. Main kya samjhaana chahti thi aur usne kya samjh liya. Meri baat toh kisi ko smjh hi ni aati. Kaash unhone mujhe smjha hota.

Yeh sab voh sawaal hai joh har insaan ko pareshaan krte hai. Yeh voh baatein hai joh sbke man main reh jaati jinka koi jawab nahi hota aur jinki vajah se har koi kabhi na kabhi khud ko down feel karata hai. Kyu hota hai aisa kyu man voh ashanka ya doubts ke baadal reh jaate hai kyun tasalli nahi milti. Aaj main is neev yaani UNDERSTANDING pr baat karunga jiski vajah se yeh saare sawaalon ki imaarte banti hai.

Boss ko kaam se related usi ke sawal ka jawab dene niklo aur reply main kya milta hai, bhashan ki yeh sahi tareeka nahi joh maine poocha uska jawab do. Ab bhayii jawab ki bhasha badal di hai kya, joh yeh tareeka sahi nahi. Seedha bolo na smjh ni aaya.

Girl friend ko batana bhool gya yaa samay na mil paane ki vajah se nahi bata paaya ki boht zaroori kaam se urgent kahi jaana hai jis karan aaj ka plan possible nahi ho paaega, toh girl friend ke hazaar sawal kyu kisliye kiske saath tumhare liye main zaroori nahi. Areh tu zaroori na hoti toh tujhse kiya pyaar kya acting hai meri? 

Din bhar ki thakan main office se ghr aaye bete se maa poochti kya khaaega beta, kya hua chehra itna utra kyu hua hai. Aur beta apni saari frustration thakaan maa ke upr chilla kr bina chahat ke nikaal deta hai. Maa kya sochti ki maine toh apne bete ka haal janne ke liye poocha bs, meri kya galti?

Na jaane aisi kitni baatein hongi joh sirf aur sirf misunderstanding ki vajah se jagti hai, aur jinka output sirf aur sirf worst ya unwanted hi aata hai. Ab kre toh kre kya.

Main manta hun ki sbse pehla step joh ham sabko chadna hai apne aap main voh hai PATIENCE ka yaani sabar. Ham sabmein sabar hona boht zaroori hai. Ham situation ki happening main itne excited yaa itne udaas hojaate hai ki khud ko sambhaal nahi paate , instead we should have that patience factor in us so as to have stable mindset and relaxed heart.

Next step main  hamein sabar ko saath rakhte hue situation main mature act krne ki zaoorat hai. Saamne vali ki baat ko sunkar uska kehne ka mtlb smjhkar ki aakhir voh yeh sab keh kyu raha hai aur fir thande dimaag se uska reply usi ke baat ke according dena chahiye taaki uski baat aapko aur apki baat use bilkul vaise hi samajh aaye jaise aap dono smjhana chahte ho. Isse kabhi misunderstanding nahi hogi.

Ab main apni soch main sbse important baat joh mujhe lagti hai voh kahunga. 

Ham jab kabhi bhi kisi bhi situation main ya communication ka part hote hai toh hamein hamesha saamne vale ki position main rehkr uski kahi hui baat ko smjhna chahiye kyunki isse hamein smjh aajaaega ki uski intention kya hai aur ek baar ham saamne vale ki intention smjh le toh fir koi baat hi ni reh jaati. This is easy to say but practically its very difficult to implement. And if you think once regarding this matter you will find that you might also be lacking somewhere in implementing it, even when you know that you need to. Because its in human nature of not being cool and not  behaving mature with getting bad results in form of conflicts , making angry and so on , which you didn't wanted to actually happen.

Agar Boss apne employee ki baat dhyaan se smjh leta ya Girl friend apne partner pr trust kr uski majboori smjh leti yaa Beta maa ki care bhari intentions pehchaan leta toh kya inme se koi bhi situation bigadti?

That's all we need to understand. We have to keep ourselves cool , possess patience and act mature. You will surely find your heart being relaxed with providing results of positive mindset.

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Thanks. I hope you UNDERSTAND what i am trying to convey.